Finding Your Birth Parents

Now there are birth mother registries, birth parent registries and registries for adoptees who are searching. Some searchers can contact the agency through which the adoption was handled. There is usually a small fee for the information they gather. Private adoptions are more difficult. You deal with lawyers. Also, adoption laws are different from state to state. Some states have intermediaries who are approved by the state court. The adoption files are released only to this person on behalf of the adoptee or birthparent. This person has to get the person being searched for to agree to the release of the information to the searcher. They may not agree but there is still a fee and you (who are paying) are not the person in control of the contact or the outcome. There are many agencies that dedicate their resources to doing these types of search. I would suggest that if you have the resources you hire a private detective to find your parent. They have the resources and personnel to search all available listings as well as to canvass and talk to people who might know.

Now there are birth mother registries, birth parent registries and registries for adoptees who are searching. Some searchers can contact the agency through which the adoption was handled. There is usually a small fee for the information they gather. Private adoptions are more difficult. You deal with lawyers. Also, adoption laws are different from state to state. Some states have intermediaries who are approved by the state court. The adoption files are released only to this person on behalf of the adoptee or birthparent. This person has to get the person being searched for to agree to the release of the information to the searcher. They may not agree but there is still a fee and you (who are paying) are not the person in control of the contact or the outcome. There are many agencies that dedicate their resources to doing these types of search. I would suggest that if you have the resources you hire a private detective to find your parent. They have the resources and personnel to search all available listings as well as to canvass and talk to people who might know.

1. Ask your adoptive parents for any information they might have that would help you in your search.

1. Ask your adoptive parents for any information they might have that would help you in your search.

2. Put a personal ad in the local paper where your birth took place asking for anyone with information regarding your birth to contact you through the newspaper. (this way you will not give out personal contact information before you have a valid contact).

2. Put a personal ad in the local paper where your birth took place asking for anyone with information regarding your birth to contact you through the newspaper. (this way you will not give out personal contact information before you have a valid contact).